one of the most eye opening things i’ve read in a while (via cacophobix)
This was one of the more useful self-help kind of things I was ever told. It really has changed my inner voice, because I used to very much be like, “You idiot, why did you do that?” “You’re not smart, you got through everything up until now because people took pity on you. You will never finish your degree.” “I mean, it’s not that your friends dislike you, they just don’t care about you when you’re not there.”
And my therapist finally pointed out the above advice. And it took a while, but I genuinely don’t think those things anymore. I mean, I still feel them sometimes (sometimes I feel them a lot), but not giving them voice really does help me banish the feelings much faster, and replace them with, “Look at your awesome friends, call them, see how much you love talking to each other?” “Your adviser just said you did a good job, so trust him, he has literally no reason to lie to you.”
It’s just… none of my friends are that mean. I’ve never had to deal with that. On the other hand, I would kill someone who treated any of my friends the way I was treating myself. I was literally being the meanest person I knew, to myself.
So maybe don’t even think of it as, “How long would you let them remain your friend?” but “How long would you let someone talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself?”
is it just me or did robin wright and gillian anderson just get hotter as they got older? like, their male costars from their youth aged like normal humans. but these ladies. dang. like a fine wine.
when ur weird fantasy turns into a decent idea for a novella